So… this video is controversial now.
Nicole Arbour has suddenly become a huge internet sensation (is that the proper word for her?) after she posted a video to her YouTube channel telling fat people to stop being fat. Yeah, that is rude.
Now, I came across this video after I watched a reaction video to this made by Grace Helbig where she completely disagreed and disregarded what Ms. Arbour had to say to all the fat people. So I must confess that I went into the video with my mind prejudiced (a little). Watch Grace’s video here.
In the video, titled “Dear Fat People”, Nicole Arbour, a comedian on YouTube with 136,472 subscribers, explains and “advices” that fat people must do something about their bodies and not kill themselves from obesity. According to her fat shaming is not a thing and it is a made up term by fat people. She specifically says that the video is not aimed at those people who gain weight due to specific health conditions. However, goes on to describe how she gets mad at parking spots for fat people and describes an experience she had with a fat family. All in all, the message she tries to give out apparently is that one must take care of their body and not take it for granted. The video caused massive outburst on the internet with people agreeing and disagreeing with her views. The video and her YouTube channel were suspended because of the high number of reports. They are both back on again now since the video does not violate any of YouTube’s policies.
This post is about me trying to figure out what this “satirist” (Arbour later mentioned that the video is more a satire) is trying to tell the world and if there is any merit to it.
- First of all…
Saying fat shaming is not a thing is one ignorant way of looking at life. Every fat person, at some point in their lives, has encountered teasing and ridicule just because of their body type. Some get through it because they don’t care what the world things. Another group, and they are the majority, end up causing more harm to themselves. The effects of being exposed to fat shaming at young years can actually induce undesirable eating habits in people which go on forever in their lives. Fat shaming is a thing, you come across it everyday. Maybe not on yourself, Nicole. Even Jennifer Aniston could not escape Daily Mail‘s wrath on having gained some weight post wedding. Why does anyone have to care about that anyway?
Point is, fat shaming exists. People/Kids are killing themselves on being called a variety of names because of their weight and that is not funny business.
2. “If I offend you so much that you lose weight, I am okay with that”
Sadly, Nicole, it is not your job to make sure other people lose weight. Hence I don’t see the point of you having to offend anyone. You being okay with offending other people only shows how hateful you are and that isn’t comedy.
3. “Fat people parking lots must be at the back of the mall parking lot. Walk to the doors, and burn some calories”
Well, if the calories you burn make whilst walking to the mall and back to the car matter so much to you, why don’t you park your car at the back all the time? Why care about where other people get to park?
4. “If you want to be body positive, work out and eat well. That is being positive to your body”
So in that same logic, if people say I have an ugly face, should I get a plastic surgery done and change my whole face to look like someone else? I can’t be positive unless I look a certain way? I am not allowed to accept the way I look because YOU do not like it? I mean, COME ON!
5. The Fat Family at the Airport
Nicole, a little tolerance never hurt anyone. How long did it take for the family to check-in anyway? If their knees hurt from standing, why not let them go before you? What difference would that make in your life? A visit to Starbucks? Really? (Starbucks. Healthy choice btw). Also, she isn’t happy that they got to go in a golf cart while she had to run to the plane. Ma’am, had you expressed your extreme desire to sit in one of those thingies, I am pretty sure the airport authorities would have let you go on them like the family did. Same goes for the time when you had to sit next to the fat person in the flight. Could have tried asking for a seat change, maybe? (The exaggeration at this point is borderline disgusting. Wasn’t funny.)
At this point in the video I just want to cry because of the hate in her voice. The “satire” has changed to a full on hate speech.
6. “I am not saying all of this to be an ass hole. I am saying this because your friends must be saying this to you”
Well, you have sort of acted like an ass hole. And no, no one can think of you as a friend when they know the kind of things you are thinking about in your head about their body size. Last I checked, friends accept each other for who they are. I get it if I have a blocked artery and my friend stops me from smoking. I do not get it if my “friend” calls me a cow because of an extra flab.
7. “Truth is, I will actually love you no matter what”
The way you love the fat family? What did they ever do to you except being fat? This woman contradicts herself waay too much!
Now, I tried looking at the positive side of things. She ends the video by saying that she hopes the truths she explained in the video would persuade people to make healthier choices. I get that. It is necessary to be healthy and to stay healthy. I try not to eat at McDonald’s everyday. I try to do Yoga whenever I can. My dad works out for an hour everyday. I know people who eat salads everyday in an attempt to not die young or get random diseases. And you know what, I also know a few people who did all of the above and still died at 40 or got diagnosed with artery blocks, diabetes and what not! It wasn’t even genetics. It was just pure bad luck.
So you know what it comes down to? Your happiness. If food is what makes you happy, that is not a crime. Eat what you want. Do not take notice of how your body looks physically. You can have fat on you and still be healthier than most people. The same applies to skinny people. If you don’t feel like eating a meal, don’t eat. People calling you skinny or fat must not make you lose your confidence.
I’ll end on this note though. Try to take care of your body a little bit. It is not very difficult. You know your body best. If you yourself feel the need to lose weight, do it. I agree that being healthy will help you in the long run. Try to exercise a little, eat some non-greasy food at times.
But remember, the priority is happiness. Always.
P. S. The use of the term “fat people” isn’t my choice. Just going by the video.
P. P. S. Nicole has disabled comments on her video. I don’t see the point of trying to make a change in the lives of people with a video when you don’t even let people talk about it under your video.
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